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My mother didn't use diapers on me as a punishment tool. That didn't mean I wasn't in diapers; on the contrary, when I had trouble with wetting the bed or daytime toileting problems, she often put me in diapers for convenience. She used disposable diapers on me, they were a great new thing in her mind back in the 70's. Of course, these were some of the original Pampers diapers that were just a flat absorbent sheet that bunched up in the crotch, so you still needed plastic or rubber pants over the top. Mom certainly wasn't happy that I wasn't potty-trained shortly after two like my older sister, and was quite frustrated when I was almost five before I got decent daytime control.

Needless to say, I was in diapers for bedwetting until I was almost ten (at which point I had outgrown almost all infant diapers) and was in them for more than one stretch in the daytime as well for either wetting or messing myself. Mom saw the diapers as an easier way to deal with the issue than all the laundry I created, and I can understand her feelings. When I was sixteen and I had a stretch where I was wetting the bed on a nightly basis again, she took me to the doctor to see if anything was wrong, and he simply stated that some boys my age still wet the bed and that I would just outgrow it, there was very little to be done in the meantime. Much to my embarrassment, mom asked him about using diapers, to which he replied that they wouldn't help me outgrow the problem any faster, just keep the sheets dry. Mom took me straight from that appointment to the drugstore and bought a pack of adult diapers for me.

I was told she didn't buy the diapers to punish me, but instead to just deal with the problem. Were other people here put in them because they genuinely had trouble and needed them, or just because mom wanted to humiliate you?
I needed them . Still do . I was never humilliated about them untill my late teens early twenties .
(06-24-2016, 10:27 PM)Richardto Wrote: [ -> ]I was told she didn't buy the diapers to punish me, but instead to just deal with the problem. Were other people here put in them because they genuinely had trouble and needed them, or just because mom wanted to humiliate you?

Although I'm told I was potty-trained fairly early, my mother would put me back in diapers for a while when I had accidents, and then it seemed to extend to punishment for acting up.  After one instance, in which I had a wetting accident in the back seat while on a car trip, I was regularly diapered for every car trip after that, "just in case..."  Coupled with my mother's phobia about public rest rooms, diapers for outings and trips became a regular occurrence.  This was back in the '50s and '60s, and I wore Curity cloth diapers, usually doubled, and Playtex rubber panties.  They were quite bulky and hard to conceal.  I might start out the day in shorts or a shortall, but once I got changed, I'd seldom get my pants back, which added to my humiliation.  Coupled with the harness I frequently had to wear (again, "for my own safety"), it was hard to imagine myself as anything but a baby.  

As I grew older, my mother seemed more attuned to the humiliation value of diapers, and put me in them frequently.
I don't wet my nappy and only wear the soft plastic kind. It is both for humiliation and I also leak a lot of pre-cum when in my uniform so it has practical use. My wife also likes the sound they make when I walk, which adds even more shame.
I was a bedwetter on and off into my teens , I do wish my parents had used diapers it would have been so much easier for my mother. I understand my mother's frustrations and the
added work she must have had to deal with. 

In the end both my brother and I were stripped of any bedding and had construction grade plastic covering our mattress and were each issued with a tiny baby sized comforter. This wasn't anywhere near enough to keep up warm in a wet bed in the UK without any kind of central heating , I remember shivering all night long in the winter.  The only time we were made to wear Diapers was when we went on vacation or had guests. 

My parents would often have parties at weekends in the 70s and my brother and I would be dragged from our bedrooms to meet all the guests individually, of course it was very apparent we were both wearing diapers and plastic paints a PJ top is all we had to try and hide the bulk of our Diapers  , pj pants were confiscated.   This was unbelievably humiliating and used as a direct humiliation and shaming tactic . Seriously did my parents think I wanted to wet the bed ? we were both called lazy and embarrassingly our bedwetting problem was often discussed with friends and Family . Name calling and humiliation was common place from both parents .

I longed to wake up dry and would have rather worn diapers until the problem went away. The GP told my mother that this was quite common and we would eventually grow out of it ,However both parents just thought we were both too lazy to go the the bathroom.  Another stupid and embarrassing  punishment was for us to hang out sheets on the washing line after they and been machine washed this was in full view of entire street.   My parents both died prematurely  , had they been alive today I would ask what good they thought they were doing? well at least I've got a Nappie / Diaper fetish out of the whole experience    Doing the wrong thing with children can cause lasting harm , I doubt any child who has a wetting problem wants to wake up in a wet cold bed
(06-26-2016, 06:33 AM)humiliatedwithnappys Wrote: [ -> ]I was a bedwetter on and off into my teens , I do wish my parents had used diapers it would have been so much easier for my mother. I understand my mother's frustrations and the
added work she must have had to deal with. 

In the end both my brother and I were stripped of any bedding and had construction grade plastic covering our mattress and were each issued with a tiny baby sized comforter. This wasn't anywhere near enough to keep up warm in a wet bed in the UK without any kind of central heating , I remember shivering all night long in the winter.  The only time we were made to wear Diapers was when we went on vacation or had guests. 

My parents would often have parties at weekends in the 70s and my brother and I would be dragged from our bedrooms to meet all the guests individually, of course it was very apparent we were both wearing diapers and plastic paints a PJ top is all we had to try and hide the bulk of our Diapers  , pj pants were confiscated.   This was unbelievably humiliating and used as a direct humiliation and shaming tactic . Seriously did my parents think I wanted to wet the bed ? we were both called lazy and embarrassingly our bedwetting problem was often discussed with friends and Family . Name calling and humiliation was common place from both parents .

I longed to wake up dry and would have rather worn diapers until the problem went away. The GP told my mother that this was quite common and we would eventually grow out of it ,However both parents just thought we were both too lazy to go the the bathroom.  Another stupid and embarrassing  punishment was for us to hang out sheets on the washing line after they and been machine washed this was in full view of entire street.   My parents both died prematurely  , had they been alive today I would ask what good they thought they were doing? well at least I've got a Nappie / Diaper fetish out of the whole experience    Doing the wrong thing with children can cause lasting harm , I doubt any child who has a wetting problem wants to wake up in a wet cold bed

I'm glad my mother used the diapers on me instead of making me wake up in the cold wet bed, but the thinking she had regarding why I still wet was much the same as your parents. It was the 70's, much like you, and the humiliation and embarrassment was seen as a valid way to give you the motivation to get the problem controlled (even though we had zero control over it). She didn't care if my sister (and later stepsisters) told other kids at school about me still wearing diapers to bed. It was discussed openly with friends and family, just like you. "If you want the teasing to stop, then stop wetting the bed."

It ended up being that I have some neurological problems with my bladder and have almost no control over it (took until my 20's to get a doctor to really look into it). I had daytime control (for the most part) as a child, teen and even into my 20's and early 30's, but that has eroded and I'm in diapers full time now.
I was late being fully toilet trained. I was five before I was out of nappies and plastic pants at night. My mother still used to get me 'ready for bed' a while before I went, which meant being changed into my nappies in the late afternoon or early evening. Once I went to school she sometimes put me straight into nappies when I got home, rather than change out of my uniform into something else first.

The whole thing was especially embarrassing as my sister, who is two years younger than me, was out of nappies at two - so I was still being put into them over a year after her.

I think it was my shame and humiliation in having to wear nappies until I was five that made my mother reintroduce them later as a punishment.
(06-28-2016, 03:36 PM)Ali Wrote: [ -> ]I was late being fully toilet trained. I was five before I was out of nappies and plastic pants at night. My mother still used to get me 'ready for bed' a while before I went, which meant being changed into my nappies in the late afternoon or early evening. Once I went to school she sometimes put me straight into nappies when I got home, rather than change out of my uniform into something else first.

The whole thing was especially embarrassing as my sister, who is two years younger than me, was out of nappies at two - so I was still being put into them over a year after her.

I think it was my shame and humiliation in having to wear nappies until I was five that made my mother reintroduce them later as a punishment.

Ali, you and I sound a lot alike. I also was one who was late to toilet train, with being five before I was out of diapers and plastic pants during the day. For me, it wasn't until I was ten that mom stopped diapering me for bed every night, mainly because the disposable diapers she could get were too small for me (and she didn't like cloth at all). Even with having achieved daytime control at five, there were still spots where I had daytime trouble and mom put me back into diapers for it. Notable was when she re-married and we moved (sending me to the third elementary school in as many months), the stress and upset in our lives left me having trouble with control. My sister was two years older than me, so she was in middle school by the time mom stopped diapering me for bed every night.

Of course, my mother always said that putting me in diapers wasn't because I did anything bad, but instead to manage things until I could be bothered to pay attention and use the bathroom when I needed to. She still tried to shame and humiliate me for needing them, but she didn't use them on me because I had acted up in any other fashion. I went back in nighttime diapers for a while again at 16 (another big move, changing schools, other big life changes), and have had regular problems with bladder control all my life (now deal with it by wearing diapers 24/7).