from Mark

Dear Auntie Helga,

I would like to get some feedback from you that might help me to help my mom. You see 3 weeks ago she was involved in an accident that is going to take her 9-12 months to heal. During that time she will have to go to therapy every day. She will also not be able to do lifting and bending over at home. With all that on her plate it means I will have to do most if not all of the housework, cook meals and laundry for both of us.

So far I have done some housework but not enough to keep my mom happy. She talked to me about all the things I will have to learn to do and continue to do. She also referred to me as her little maid a couple of times which prompted me to go see of there is such a thing as male maids. The information I found had me in disbelief until I read about it on your website. As much as it seemed kind of weird in somehow made sense to me that boys take on that responsibility. When I was younger my mom and I experimented with me in her clothes a couple of times for Halloween. So what I'm saying if my mom wanted me to take on the maid role in the house while she heals I would be prepared to wear a maid uniform for her.

What do you think Auntie Helga? If you were laid up for 9 months would you mind if your son became your maid and dressed that way too? I think my mom would laugh at the idea at first but quickly agree to it. It would be a big step for me to do it but I have to look after her and the house anyways. I can't say I would like to do it forever like many other sons do but 9 months would better than nothing. I just thought it might make my mom happier to see her son as her maid during these hard times.

If you agree or disagree it would be nice to hear from you.

Thank you,

Thank you for your letter Mark. I am so sorry to hear about your mom, though I am on the other hand, pleased to learn that you are considering a rather unique way to help her, you are obviously a good son.

I sense that there might be more to this concept than 'if my mom wanted...', I get the impression that this is something you want to do, though in either case I support your choice. I'm sure she would love to have you as her maid, I would be thrilled if my son was willing to make the sacrifice. I do however feel rather than just walking into her room wearing a maid's dress, you discuss this idea with her first.

Auntie Helga

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