CORRESPONDENCE FROM MISTRESS ALISON
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A brief introduction is in order; Mistress Alison is a good friend and a very knowledgeable and experienced Mistress, she has also been a frequent contributor to PDQ. She is now available to answer questions from both Mistress and sissies alike, assuming a respectful tone of course. These email conversations may well be included at some future date in PDQ though a request for privacy would be respected. Feel free to write her at mistress-alison@petticoated.com and please don't waste her valuable time asking "where / how can I find a Mistress?"

Dear Alison,

I have been married for 5 years now and my wife Shika dressed me in female clothes on her younger sister's suggestion last year. it was fun to start with. However, with each passing month she kept transforming me again and again while trying the whole wardrobe on me. She clicked pics of me. Since I have long hair and she made a beautiful hairstyle and clicked my pic from back hiding my face. On the same day her mother called her. As my wife was busy she was texting her messages. During the chat her mother asked if as to what was she doing? out of wits she told her that she was making hairstyle on me to which her mother was excited and asked Shika to sent pic to her which she did sent. Mother-in-law was so amused to see the pic but should not recognise at first look as I was wearing Salwar Suit (Indian Dress). She said that I was looking like a girl and expressed her desire to see me full dressed with complete makeup, dress and high heels.

I am so fearful and already refused to co operate. However, Shika is insisting that it will be fun and mother will keep the secret. But, I can't trust her as she is very witty person, she gone and make me feel ashamed, tease me. Last Sunday, Shika again dressed me and had invited her sister Pooja, without me knowing about her arrival. She let me face Pooja in the hall and while both started laughing. I was a surprise shock for me. She took my pics and both females are blackmailing me to face my mother-in-law or else Pooja is going to show pics to my friends and her friends too. What can I do now?

Anubhav

Dear Anubhav

The short answer is very little. Your wife and sister in law already have the pictures as evidence so you can't deny it ever happened. You say your wife, Shika is very witty, by which I assume you mean clever or cunning and I think your mother in law already knows what has been going on. I don't believe that she phoned up when you were wearing the female Salwar suit by accident. Assuming Pooja is your wife's younger sister of whom you spoke in your opening sentence I think she is the driving force behind what has happened and that your wife plotted with her and their mother to get you into a position from which you cannot escape.

But you say "it was fun to start with." So what has changed? You seemed to have been happy to wear the Salwar, a form of dress which to my English eyes is much more feminine and alluring than the sari or indeed most western styles and looked sufficiently convincing for your mother in law not to recognise you at first. Would you be happy to be fully dressed with makeup and high heels if it was only your wife who saw you? Isn't there a part of you that secretly wants this to happen, but is ashamed to admit it? What exactly are you frightened of? Your wife and sister in law already know and have seen you dressed, your mother in law now knows and wants to see you dressed. What have you got to lose by letting her?

I think you have little alternative but to accept a fait accompli and try and make the best of it. Ultimately you are going to have to do as your wife tells you, so it is better to do so with good grace rather than risk making her angry. I think you should have a serious talk with Shika, ask her why she wants to do this and what plans she has for the future. Tell her you find this difficult but will try your best to cooperate and to please her if she agrees to keep the secret within the immediate family. She may agree, she may refuse, or she may use the threat of future exposure to ensure your good behaviour, but you have little choice other than to accept her terms.

Many of the men who write to me would consider themselves blessed to be in your position. I recommend that you try to see this as an opportunity rather than a problem to be solved.

If you need more help then please feel free to write again. If you feel it might help for Shika to write to me then that is also all right.

I wish you good luck for the future.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Alison,

I had talk with my wife regarding my exposure to her mother. She too is uncomfortable to openly discuss with her mother and confused as to how to show me as a surprise rather than formally exposing? I was awkward for her over phone last time as mother-in-law was both happy as well as surprised to learn as to why she was doing that to me, maybe mother-in-law has unheard of such a concept in India. However, out of curiosity she might have expressed her desire. Moreover, I fear that my father-in-law might know/ see me if we visit their home. It is also not possible in our house. Shika is asking for a plan of events which she can pursue to show me to her mother. But, there is no guarantee that her mother will not tell her husband or any friend of hers. Shika has assured that she will ask her mother to keep the secret. I have another fear that if mother-in-law like my new look, she might insist to make my hairstyle and force me do other girly things.

Kindly suggest something.
Anubhav

Dear Anubhav

I am confused as to exactly what your wife wants. You say she is uncomfortable discussing things with her mother, but wants a plan to show you to her mother as a surprise. Is it you or Shika who doesn't trust her mother to keep your secret? I think your mother in law will most definitely want you to do girly things, that is the whole point of petticoating.

I think you need to ask your wife why does she want to show you to her mother and how does she want thing to progress after that. She is contemplating a big step from which there will be no going back. I suggest you tell her you will go along with whatever she decides because you love her and you trust her not to do anything that might damage your marriage.

Please let me know what she decides to do.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Alison,

My wife felt little unformattable only when her mother asked curiously that as to how long she was doing this to me and where did she learn all this stuff? Moreover, she did tell Shika that she should respect husband as husbands are highly respected in some religions. She is unfamiliar with the concept and subject. But, my wife is eager to showcase her achievement in the male dominating world in India. She believes that her mother will keep the secret, though I am sceptical whether she will tell her husband. She has convinced me to take the chance and asked me to request mother-in-law not to tell anybody while talking like a girl. I know it is going to be very embarrassing.

Now, it is the question as to whether she should dress me and then take me in front of her mother in high heels, makeup and hairstyle done etc, or She transform me first and then invite her mother into the room and pretend that it was an accident to have me exposed to her mother in girl clothes? As you are very familiar with such situations as to how dominating women petticoat men. Kindly you suggest a plan of action. Shika' s intention is to make me feel embarrasing as well as entertain her mother. Mother-in-law live with her husband, daughter-in-law and grandson. I don't want to face her daughter-in-law as it will be highly humiliating and difficult to control consequences. We will be highly thankful to you if you can help in this final episode so that mother-in-law see me keep the secret too.

Regards,
Anubhav

Dear Anubhav

It is good that you have accepted that whatever your wife Shika decides will be embarrassing for you, but you must do it. Your wife should be proud of having brought you to this stage of acceptance in such a traditionally patriarchal country as India. Since your wife is doing this deliberately and wants her mother to see you in all your feminine finery, wig, make up, high heels and so forth why would she want to pretend it was an accident? I therefore recommend that Shika dress you first and then present you to her mother as a surprise and have you entertain them both by talking like a small girl, acting in a coy manner or perhaps dancing for them before serving them food or drinks. Have Shika tell her mother that while you are dressed like this you will be obedient and highly respectful to both of them, acting more like a servant than a husband or son-in-law.

You may not wish to face your mother-in- law's daughter-in- law (presumably Shika's sisiter-in-law) but that is not your choice to make, it is Shika's and you must accept her decision without question however humiliating you might find it. If I was writing to your wife rather than yourself I would suggest that if you become disobedient or disrespectful she threatens to show you to a wider audience, including of course her sister-in-law. I suggest you tell Shika this and then she can decide whether or not to adopt this idea.

Let me know how it goes.

I wish you both good luck for the future.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Alison,

Last few days had been very embarrassing for me. My wife dressed me in Salwar Suit as usual and made a almost shoulder length bob by folding my hair inwards as I have long hair. She clicked my pics from the back and after one hour as we were relaxing on the bed while I was still wearing the dress. She got a message on her phone from her sister-in-law, Jaspreet. Jaspreet asked my wife as to what was she doing. My wife told her that she has just tried a new hairstyle on her 'Jijaji' to which Jaspreet was so excited and asked Shika to show the pic if she have. My wife sent her the pic from back angle. At first, she could not recognise me. Later she recognised me by seeing my muscular arms. She was all laughter and she asked Shika if she would do that same whenever I visit their home to which my wife agreed without my consent.

Last weekend we went to mother-in-law home to attend some social function and I was hiding from Jaspreet. But, when she found me and my wife alone, she come to me and asked as to how you have become so slim? I said, just dieting a little. To which she confronted me by saying, "No, you are dieting so that you can wear Salwaar Suit easily of my sister. Both started laughing and I could not say a word. To make matter worse she demanded that I will have to dress up again for her or else she will show the whole pics to my mother-in-law.

As I had some office work tomorrow, we returned late without staying at M-I-L home. Jaspreet is very excited to see me in Salwaar Kameez. however, I am very afraid that things are going out of control and I can only dress up for her provided she is at home alone. I can't dress up before other family members.

I am getting uncomfortable and already explained to wife that Jaspreet might invite my mother-in-law after dressing me in most feminine manner as I could see that spark in her eyes and the way she was teasing me. I have told my wife that I can face my M-I-L provided there is no one in the house except both of them. or I can request Jaspreet not to share my pics with her M-I-L. In return , I can agree to her demands if any. I think that would lead to a blackmailing position.

Pls help me
Anubhav

Dear Anubhav

The correct way to address me in correspondence is "Mistress Alison" and you should sign yourself "Yours sincerely," uninvited familiarity is disrespectful.

Your enquiry appears to be almost a carbon copy of the emails you sent me in March of last year when you were concerned about your wife and sister in law showing pictures of you to their mother. Now your wife's sister in law knows your secret the number of people aware of what you do has grown and so has the potential for embarrassment. However, as I told you last March there is very little you can do about it. Your wife has the evidence and so do Pooja and Jaspreet. In my email of 12/3/19 I told you, "It is good that you have accepted that whatever your wife, Shika decides will be embarrassing for you but you must do it," and that is still true. You say you have explained to Shika how you feel about being exposed to your mother in law, but have not told me her response. You have made your position clear and whatever her decision may be you have no choice to accept it.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Respected Mistress Alison,

Regarding Shika view, she is firm in showing me while dressed in salwaar kameez to Jaspreet and her mother, she said she can't guarantee when mother will be alone at home. she also not discussed with her mother not to tell anyone else regarding my dressing. that is why the whole fear. Once am I exposed there will be no looking back, and MIL might show off me to FIL or her neighbours. My wife is waiting for that time when either her mother come to my home when my family is away or their family members are away. she said she will share my pics again over phone to excite her mother so that she also learn to have a feminised S-I-L. In fact last week put me in her clothes and called her mother to discuss something regarding stitched clothes. She told her mother that Shika wanted to visit her home while I am so busy in work and not letting Shika go to her house, to that my M-I-L asked her to hand over the phone to me, I was so embarrassed to talk to my M-I-L while wear salwar kameez while my wife was laughing. I could not speak a complete sentence and only answered in Yes.....Yes... Hmmm, Yes 'Sasu Maa'. I realised what will happen when I meet her in real life, just waiting for the right opportunity to fulfil the fantasy, hope you have something to share any idea or sequence of events...

Excitement is just creating more curiosity and fear.

Yours Sincerely
Anubhav

Dear Anubhav

I don't know what you expect me to say. Your wife, Shika is now very firmly in control of the situation and of you. She obviously has a definite idea of what she wants to do with you, and to whom and in what circumstances she wants to show you off. You are worrying about something that has already happened, there is now no chance of your going back, you have passed the point of no return and what happens to you in future will be what your wife wants. This may be difficult to accept at first, but you have no choice. Your role is now to be obedient to your wife and to make her proud of what she has done with you, try looking at your future as one of exciting new possibilities rather than as something to be feared.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison


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