CORRESPONDENCE FROM MISTRESS ALISON
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A brief introduction is in order; Mistress Alison is a good friend and a very knowledgeable and experienced Mistress, she has also been a frequent contributor to PDQ. She is now available to answer questions from both Mistress and sissies alike, assuming a respectful tone of course. These email conversations may well be included at some future date in PDQ though a request for privacy would be respected. Feel free to write her at mistress-alison@petticoated.com and please don't waste her valuable time asking "where / how can I find a Mistress?"

Dear Mistress Alison,

I am a male, early 30s, and petticoat punishment is a fantasy of mine. I identify as straight, so I have wondered how this developed and where it started from. My theory is that I have my sister to thank for it.

She is a few years older than me and as a teen she was kind of shy at school. We would argue and make fun of each other at times, but usually got along. When we were home from school and during the summer she would be in charge of me until Mom returned from work. The first time she initiated dressing me up as a girl, she succeeded. I guess out of curiosity and boredom I went along with it and actually enjoyed the experience. I didn't say much during the dressings as to not make her think I really liked it, but she must have noticed that I didn't put up much of a fuss as it started to become a pretty common hobby for us.

She could sense that I secretly liked wearing her clothes and I could sense that she was intrigued by the idea of turning me into a girl. It was sort of awkward because being in our teen/tween years we were probably too old to be playing "dress-up" so we would label the activity "Mrs. Doubtfire" and use that term when proposing what game we should play when we were bored. At first she would put together outfits and assertively tell me to put them on but eventually started to open her closet and just ask me "what do you want to wear?". Maybe she was testing me, but I remember being embarrassed while selecting a dress and then asking her for a pair of nylons/tights to go with it.

I was a typical male kid that played sports, pulled pranks, and had crushes on girls... so it felt strange that my sister was discovering that I had a feminine side and at the same time introducing me to these sissy tendencies I didn't know I had. Between my mom and sister, there were plenty of skirts, pantyhose, dresses, etc. so when I had the apartment to myself I would indulge. Soon I started getting aroused from dressing up girly and became hooked on the feeling.

Out of fear that Sis might notice this, I decided it would be best to stop letting her see me feminized so I just pretended I grew out of it and that it didn't interest me anymore. Life went on and we never talked about it. Many years have passed and for my birthday this year my sister gave me a DVD. When I opened it and saw that it was the movie Mrs. Doubtfire, I chuckled and simply said "Oh good choice, this one's a classic!". She smiled back with a knowing look in her eye and said "Yeah, I was at the store and it reminded me of you". Other people were present as well so I played it off by saying "Of course, I do like quoting many phrases from this movie!"

Does she suspect that I still like to dress up after all this time?

Many boys would hate being dressed up so why is it that some, including myself, actually like it so much that it is arousing?

I am not gay, but does embracing the idea of petticoating technically make me a sissy?

Sincerely,
Chris

Dear Chris

My own sissymaid, kitty, reckons that all true sissies are born rather than made. That may well be true in her case, but whether that is universal would be a moot point. My guess is that since your own interest began around puberty you associate cross dressing with your first sexual awakening. I also note that you also felt a sense of guilt or possibly shame at what you were doing, and even worse, enjoying. But the reason why is largely irrelevant; I would say you are a sissy with submissive tendencies, why else would you be reading PDQ? Huge numbers of men feel exactly the same way, but they suppress those feelings because our society has taught them it is wrong: that they should behave in a certain way and anything different is somehow bad.

Having these tendencies or secret desires does not make you gay, or indeed anything else, many men lead lives of outward rectitude and normality while wearing panties stockings and suspenders under their work clothes, still more come home and immediately change into something frilly and feminine or into a maid's uniform to do their housework. This is really no different from wearing lurid trousers to play golf or waders to go fishing. If you enjoy it and hurt no one else in the process then where's the harm?

Of course your sister knows what you like, women are far more aware of male peccadilloes than they generally let on, and your use of the present tense is very revealing, are you hoping that she not only does know but might be prepared to repeat your youthful experiences? The only way to be 100% sure is to ask her. You don't say if you are in a relationship or in what circumstances you currently dress, but it shouldn't be too difficult to engineer a meeting with your sister where you can't be overheard and ask if she has the same fond memories of dressing up as a teenager.

Feel free to writer again if you would like more advice.

I wish you well for the future and happy dressing.

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison

I am not in a relationship right now and my sister is also single. I have a small collection of clothes that I dress in, most of the urges come from when I need to relieve stress or when I desire to masturbate. If I were to be petticoated by a female, that would be heaven for me. The idea of her relishing in my submissive state and also knowing that it is stimulating me is a real turn-on. However, since it is personally a sexually gratifying activity, I feel like if I try to gauge my sister's interest in participating that I may creep her out.

Chris

Dear Chris

I am sensing a deep seated feeling of frustration and think your original question was merely a desire to have what you already knew to be true confirmed by the female authority figure you so clearly lack in your own life.

We have established beyond doubt that you are a submissive sissy and you do want to dress and be dominated by a female. The words dominate and domination conjure all manner of extreme activities many of them sexual, but in fact cover a huge spectrum. So far your only experience in this area has been at the hands of your sister so naturally you imagine (fantasise) about repeating your early steps.

Your sister bought you that DVD knowing full well that it would bring back memories for you, so simply asking her what her recollections of your shared Mrs Doubtfire dress up games is hardly likely to upset her. Neither is it creepy to tell her that those were among the happiest days of your life, for many people the days of their childhood were the happiest time, when they could experiment and explore their own feelings without fear or guilt.

So my advice remains the same; simply ask her if she has the same happy memories. If she replies yes then you can ask about why she chose the DVD and take it from there. At worse she will say something evasive to indicate she doesn't want to go there, but at best she could become a confidante who helps you find the right person to take you back to those happy times. I'm not suggesting that it will be her necessarily, merely that talking it through at greater length with someone who understands and cares will help you achieve your goal. She may even know someone who would positively enjoy the chance to dominate and sissify you.

This all comes back to two basic truths; communication is the key to all successful relationships and if you don't seek you are never going to find. So why not take the bull by the horns, what have got to lose?

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison

Yes, your observation is correct. Thank you for your sharp insight.

Based on my fantasies and how they relate to what I read in PDQ, I had accepted that I was probably a sissy (though it is humiliating to admit this, let alone to another person). It has caused a bit of an identity crisis for my ego, so I figured I would seek the opinion of a professional (you) for confirmation.

You mentioned domination and its spectrum; I should add that I have never gone down that path of being the sub in a relationship. I do not fantasize about being with men or using strap-ons. I enjoy being dominant during sex with women, but my desire to be dressed as a girl-by a girl- is a facet of my sexual personality that confuses me.

Chris

Dear Chris

Literally millions of men feel the way you do and it's nothing to be ashamed of. The lady, who, along with Auntie Helga, was my mentor when I was starting out always believed that this was because for most men the first person to discipline them was also the first person to give them unconditional love, their mother. She thought that huge numbers of men craved loving female authority in their lives and only hid it because of the way they'd been brought up.

It is a popular misconception that men who like to cross dress are gay or somehow lack masculinity. Nothing could be further from the truth and for many men it provides an escape from the pressures of their daily lives.

The real question, of course, is not why are you the way you are, or how did you get here, but what are you going to do about it? You are currently dressing and masturbating, a particularly loathsome male habit of which you need to be cured, and are not in a relationship. If you do nothing, then a decade hence you will still be in the same miserable, unfulfilled state. As a start I believe you should open up to your sister and as the next step take positive action to find a suitable woman who will take you in hand. I don't pretend it will be easy but if you continue to do nothing then you will spend the rest of your life regretting it, thinking "If only I'd ..."

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison

Dear Mistress Alison,

I really appreciate your supportive advice. Your contributions are thoughtful and inspirational. Upon reflection, I think I would make an ideal partner for a strong woman and should not fear rejection of my desires.

You labelled masturbating a loathsome male habit, can you elaborate on that? I always viewed it as perfectly natural.

Sometimes I see real girls and fantasize about my feminine side, wishing to be a girl for a day. A common theme of the envy is any outfit that is complimented with tights or pantyhose. Full waist-to-toe hosiery instead of a garter belt and stockings. Why am I so attracted to them, and what does it say about my style/female personality?

Sincerely,
Chris

Dear Chris

Why do you ask me about masturbation? You know that it is about self gratification, something all males are given to. All men should be locked into chastity for their own good.

Of course you fantasise about girls wearing those things you wish to be made to wear. You know you want to wear them just as much as you know you want a dominant woman in your life. Writing to me about your fantasies isn't going to make them come true. Do something. Speak to your sister. As I wrote earlier what have you got to lose?

Yours sincerely
Mistress Alison


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